BREAKING NEWS
I Cut Ties With My Father: A Rant
Date: March 10, 2023
Category: Family, Relationships, Self-Discovery
Tags: Cut Ties With Father, Family Drama, Toxic Parent, Emotional Abuse, Self-Discovery, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Breaking News, Rant, Father-Daughter Relationship
As I sit down to write this, I’m still trying to process the emotions that have been swirling inside me for what feels like an eternity. The truth is, I’ve had enough. I’ve had enough of the lies, the manipulation, and the emotional abuse. Today, I’m announcing that I’ve cut ties with my father.
For as long as I can remember, my father has been a constant source of stress and anxiety in my life. His words cut deep, and his actions have left me feeling belittled and worthless. I’ve tried to make excuses for him, to justify his behavior, but the truth is, it’s time to take responsibility for my own well-being.
I’ve been feeling trapped, suffocated by the toxic relationship we’ve had for so long. I’ve felt like I’m walking on eggshells, never knowing when he’ll lash out or make a snide comment. I’ve felt like I’m living in a constant state of fear, always wondering what I did wrong.
But today, I’m taking back control. Today, I’m choosing to prioritize my own mental health and well-being. Today, I’m choosing to break free from the toxic cycle of abuse and negativity.
It’s not going to be easy, and it’s not going to be without its challenges. But I know that I deserve better. I deserve to be loved and respected, to be treated with kindness and compassion. And I know that I’m not alone.
To all the survivors of toxic families out there, I see you. I hear you. And I’m with you. We deserve better, and we will rise above.
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TLDR: 22F diagnosed with Autism in early adulthood. My dad sucks and I hope Karma is a bitch. I'm probably gonna delete this after a few days. I just needed to rant.
Over the weekend, I cut ties with my father. He is what the Mormon's would call orthodox but in an exmo's eyes…. it's all the same.
No black makeup, no shorts that DON'T cover the knees (unless it's for a sport), no clothes that frame the body, no tattoos, no piercings… etc.
This was also a man that said "If I ever got a tattoo, it would be on my chest say 'Property of the LDS Church'"
The same man that married a woman with tattoos of her child, who also happened to be just as TBM as him.
To be blunt, a lot of the mistakes he made in my life directly correlate with the church. Not being allowed to baptize me. Sealing his family without me. Refusing to divorce his wife despite his obvious depression. And the ease of cutting off children once they have lost their testimony.
My body image issues and lack of trust in my own judgment, I'm now realizing, stemmed from him.
As the eldest, he held me at a higher standard. The perfect mormon young woman, daughter, wife, and mother. I made many mistakes growing up just to curry his favor as I strived for all those attributes. After I was SA'd by another member, my only thoughts were how unworthy I was. How I had failed the church and my father. My father didn't believe me. He believed I was a liar. That I was losing my mind like a family member of his once did. Ruining men's lives for attention. It was like I finally understood the church's thoughts on women.
I am meant to be lusted over, but none may do so. A forbidden fruit. Shameful.
I was diagnosed with Autism a little late in life, and when I had shared the news to him… that maybe this is why our family was the way it was…. I was ignored. I had, again, lied to the man of the family. Shameful.
Even now, my views on myself are harsh and constricting. Regardless of all this information, I missed my father. I missed my dad. I missed how he treated me when I was a kid. How loved I was. So we set up a dinner to reconcile. I got anxious a few hours before and ended up called him to it talk over. I blocked his ass 15 minutes later.
He had yet to acknowledge my feelings. Still had not accepted his faults and mistakes. And blamed everything on me and my apparent "spiraling." Yes, this man repeated "You're spiraling" over and over. Another trick to get me to comply and submit. He didn't want to "hash out the past" but I needed it desperately.
I didn't get the response I wanted, but I got the one I needed. And I don't believe there is a single good mormon. Maybe I'm saying this out of hurt, but a God that is petty and vengeful allows that same path to be followed without punishment. My moral compass demands justice, one that will never be afforded me.
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I’m sorry you had such a crummy dad. It’s almost like the Mormon church took your real dad away and you got stuck with an off-brand LDS replacement.
That’s what happened to me too. I miss having a dad.
>You’re spiralling…
Isn’t it odd how you’ll stop “spiralling” after cutting dad off?
Sorry about all this. It freaking sucks so bad having close relatives that love their cult more than their family. Live there and doing that.
I wish you the best of luck going forward. In many of these cases the price the believer pays is any future relationship with their children and in many cases grandchildren.
I am so sorry you went through that. The LDS is attrocious to people with Autism. We have seen that posted over and over here. I hope you have been able to get the life coaching you need to be successful with Autism. Best wishes to you.
I’m so sorry that your parent has failed you as a father. The purity culture in mormonism is so psychologically damaging. I hope that you can find a new family that you choose that will see your value as a person and you can create a new relationship with yourself that can let go of those internalized judgments.