I overheard my sister telling my brother is pregnant and she won’t tell our mom or dad

Hello Reddit:

I need some advice on how to proceed, as time is of the essence and I need to make a decision sooner rather than later.

Here’s the situation:

My sister is a manager at a restaurant. She’s an extremely hard worker and very personable. I am inspired by her work ethic and just how funny and kind she is to others.

However, she is struggling mentally and will be struggling financially from having a child at this moment.

She recently broke things off with her long term boyfriend/fiance and in the last few months has immediately begun dating someone else (It’s kinda who she’s always been, always has to be hitched at any time).

I have never met this guy yet, as she lives across states from me and I haven’t even so much has seen photos of the guy. I do not know who the father is, but that is not here nor there. (NOMB)

She had made plans to move back to Florida for a job opportunity from her best friend that (I think?) she will make more money with, also in the restaurant industry. In the past few weeks, she doesn’t know if she wants to move back here or stay where she is currently at. In her mind, she feels like she’s “owes” the promise she made to her friend.

Yesterday, I overhead while my brother was on the phone with my sister in my car, suddenly blurts out that she was pregnant. I was not supposed to hear this as my brother and sister tell each other things no one else is supposed to know, only to them.

My brother told me not to tell ANYONE this news. Not my dad, my mom, anyone.

Now, my mom will absolutely not take this news well at all. One could call it apocalyptic when she does find out, but there is a time and place. My dad, on the other hand, is a very smart person and will not freak out (although I do not think he will be thrilled given her life circumstances) and will come up with a sort of game plan that needs to happen, in my mind.

For other context, my sister is a heavy nicotine and alcohol user. I do not know if she currently is using while she is pregnant (I hope to god she is not) and she has an autoimmune disease which restricts her from certain foods (eggs and dairy).

My sister should have the right to choose when she relays this information to whomever she wants (her body, her choices), but my brain is telling me, please just tell our dad now and not waste time with keeping this a secret. I know my dad will help her out. She knows that too.

I cannot tell my dad, as then the trust between my brother and sister will forever be shattered and, by extension, the trust between my brother and myself.

But I feel like the more we just wait around for her to share it with my dad, only bad things can happen.

I don’t know who her boyfriend is. I don’t know who the father of her child is. I don’t know what her plan for money is when she has to take care of the baby and quit working for the time being. I do not know how financially stable her boyfriend is. There is just so much unknowns that I feel like my dad can come up with the best solutions now rather than if we wait until the baby is about to be born. I should also mention: she has already had a prior abortion, so I think that is off the table.

Reddit, what do you think is best?

TLDR: I overhead my sister is pregnant, for which I am to tell no one. She will not tell my dad or mom yet, however since she works in the restaurant industry and she recently started dating someone new with whom income and support is a question mark at this point, I believe it is the smart thing to bite the bullet and tell my dad this news, as he will be understanding and come up with some sort of action, despite the fact that she should have the right to share this news when she is ready and trust will be broken between my brother, my sister and myself.