BREAKING NEWS: Dilemma Unfolds as 23-Year-Old Man Struggles to Proceed with Relationship
TAGS: relationship advice, dating struggles, relationship drama, advice column, boyfriend problems
DATE: March 21, 2023
BREAKING DEVELOPMENT: In a shocking turn of events, our source, a 23-year-old man, is at a loss for how to move forward with his 22-year-old girlfriend. Details are emerging about the predicament, which has sent shockwaves through the young adult community.
IN DEPTH: The dilemma revolves around the man’s struggle to find a compromise on a fundamental aspect of the relationship. Sources close to the situation have confirmed that the couple has hit a roadblock, causing significant tension and uncertainty. We have obtained exclusive insights from the 23-year-old, who wishes to remain anonymous, revealing:
"It’s like we’re from two different planets. She wants to plan a spontaneous vacation, and I need time to think about my budget. We always seemed to find a middle ground before, but this time it’s like we’re unable to communicate effectively. I don’t know how to bridge the gap."
CALL TO ACTION: We put the question to our loyal readers: what would you do in this situation?
Should the 23-year-old man take the bull by the horns and try to find a compromise?
Would you suggest they take a step back and reevaluate their priorities?
Do you believe this is a mere hiccup in an otherwise strong relationship?
RELATIONSHIP EXPERT SOUNDS OFF: Dr. Sophia Patel, a leading relationship expert, shared her take on the situation. "It’s essential for both parties to acknowledge and understand each other’s concerns. Communication is key; perhaps they can try using ‘I’ statements instead of ‘you’ statements, which can lead to defensiveness. Re-establishing empathy and emotional intimacy can help them get back on track."
CALL TO ACTION (II): Share your expert advice and experiences in the comments below. We urge you to help this couple navigate their crisis and rebuild a stronger connection.
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Last week we celebrated our 3 year anniversary. Towards the end of the weekend celebration, she admitted she needed to confess something to me. She told me that her first boyfriend (a guy I had heard plenty about being a cheating manwhore) gave her herpes. A year after they broke up was the first and only time she ever had an outbreak or experienced symptoms. She said the only reason she said anything was because she was scared she might be having another one and that plus her period were the reasons we weren’t having sex our anniversary weekend. I have been looking forward to marrying this girl, having kids, and so on. We have even discussed open relationships as she is bi and enjoys bringing a girl into the bedroom. I’m just flabbergasted by this news and feel like my whole world no our whole world we’ve been building has just been uprooted. Idk if I have contracted it since we have been together but I am going to get tested soon. I understand I’m young and can always move on but this was the girl, she’s not perfect but I’ve invested so much the past 3 years like moving her in with me, getting her a better job, helping her buy her first car shit teaching her how to drive. The list goes on. The idea of contracting herpes really turns me off and it depresses me to know this sweet beautiful woman I’ve given my heart over to lied to me about something like this for 3 years. Worst is I don’t have anyone really to talk to, I don’t wanna tell family because I wouldn’t want that to get out just as much as she doesn’t. I understand she really was a victim because her ex was the first person she had sex with and he gave her herpes, but do I deserve to just be blindsided and kind of almost forced to stay in the situation. What do I do?
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Herpes itself is very manageable (even if some people have to take medication to stave off flareups), but the lying is pretty bad. Being a “victim” never gives one the right to victimize others. But there’s also denialism to maybe take into consideration. If she had this one outbreak, just assumed it was herpes but never went in to get a real diagnosis, maybe you could lean into her not truly believing it. However, if she got this diagnosed and knew she had it the whole time she was having sex with you (for three years!), that might fall into the category of unforgivable.
Not telling you this for 3 years is a huge betrayal of trust. Herpes itself is not the worst thing; it can be managed with medication. But if she lied to you about this for three whole years, what else might be lie about?
After three years of time, effort and commitment into a girl you thought was your Cadillac you find out? She’s just a used Chevy. You’ve got buyers remorse and I think it’s justified.
I know people are always bashing a lot of these forms because everybody just screams end it, that’s the best advice I could give you right here. Your trusting her is always going to be questionable and to be honest with you her morals and values aren’t really in line with someone you can trust either. Trust is the very foundation of any relationship and she has destroyed yours. She fooled you once, shame on her. Do you know where the shame is gonna lie when she fools you again, and she will.
Hey, so this situation is very shitty. Im sorry you’re going through it. I will try to play devil’s advocate here a little. One of my BIGGEST fears is contracting herpes, mainly because I think it would make me unlovable. I have since gotten better because i have a best friend that is married and has herpes that she contracted from someone before her now husband. I do agree that she should not have waited 3 years to tell you but there is always the question on our minds of “when should I tell him?” and also “ive never had an outbreak in 3 years and im so in love im afraid he wont love me if he knows”. She should have told you because its about YOUR health and she should have not initiated unprotected sex with you even without outbreaks.
I have done plenty of research about this to ease my own OCD mind and I can tell you that herpes is VERY manageble to live with, There are medications to control outbreaks when they occur and breakouts are sometimes very rare (which i believe is the case for your GF). I would talk to your doctor to see what is the best course for your health and I would see if you are able to forgive her for this break of trust. I hope you figure it out!
What you do is get tested and dump her lying dirty ass. Make sure you warn as many people as you can to what shes out here doing. Uninformed consent isn’t consent.