BREAKING NEWS
"Are you Pregnant?" Fiascos Reach New Heights as Frustrated Citizens Take to Social Media!
Date: March 22, 2023
Category: World News, Lifestyle, Entertaining News
[SPECIAL REPORT]
Are we truly living in a modern era where basic human identity is constantly under scrutiny, solely based on a pregnancy inquiry? It’s exhausting! The age-old interrogation "Are you pregnant?" has reached new heights, with many feeling utterly helpless in the face of insensitivity.
As we enter a new era of cultural understanding and inclusivity, the "are you pregnant?" question has become all too familiar. Whether aimed at a stranger, family member, or friend, the inquiry has morphed from a genuine concern for a person’s well-being to a crass method of prying into others’ personal lives.
What began as a seemingly innocuous question has escalated to an all-out epidemic. Victims of this invidious inquiry share their testimonies, highlighting the stress, anxiety, and helplessness that accompany the all-too-familiar query:
"’Are you pregnant?’ My friend asked me directly after I shared a workout routine on Instagram. At that moment, I froze. I didn’t have the courage to reveal, ‘No, I have polycystic ovarian syndrome and can’t seem to get pregnant.’ A question that could’ve fostered empathy and understanding sparked discomfort and awkwardness" – Sarah, 24.
"’Are you pregnant?’ My neighbor inquired at the local grocery store, as I was diligently filling my cart with necessary supplies. The implication stunned me: did they equate my age (55) with my reproductive fitness? I smiled and played it cool, but afterward, I couldn’t escape the feeling of being stigmatized" – Ellen, 55.
Breaking News: Social Media Comes to the Rescue!
Today, the tide of intolerance turns as the "Pregnancy Question" – that most tiresome yet pernicious of clichés – has ignited fiery reactions across social media, culminating in an inspiring tide of solidarity. Celebrities, influencers, content creators, and everyday social media users are sharing the anguish, embarrassment, and sense of injustice caused by the "are you pregnant?" inquiry.
In times like these, we all stand united against the trivialization of our human beings! Join the conversation in solidarity, sharing your encounters and experiences with the odious "are you pregnant?" question.
READ MORE:
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I'm only 3 months fresh into marriage and every fricken time I see someone I always get asked "Soooo, are you pregnant?" Or "Any news you have to share?" Or just the visual disappointment on people's faces when I say I'm on my period. Its killing me. For starters, I DO want to get pregnant as soon as possible but that takes time but people dont respect that nor do they respect my privacy. That is honestly such an intrusive question and what if I were pregnant and wanted to surprise that person?? Then its ruined.
But it's also just so hard always being asked and disappointing people. Its putting such a pressure on me that it makes ne nervous to see people. Like it's my duty to get pregnant for them and not for me and my husband. Plus it also hurts, I absolutely hate seeing those negative pregnancy tests and every time someone asks I get reminded of how not pregnant I am. I'm so over it. It's only been 3 months and I can stand people asking me that anymore! Please tell me I'm not alone, I cant be the only person who absolutely hates that question…
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Maybe I’m thick skinned but if good people around me are asking about me , making some stupid guesses then it really doesn’t affect me, rather I see good intentions behind it.
About bad people; I don’t keep them around mostly and even if they are, I don’t think about them.
OP, if these people are good, accept their innocent assumptions.
And if you are around people who aren’t overall good for you, then you have a bigger issue to solve
Do not answer that question. It’s none of their business. Pick a response: Kind of a personal question, don’t you think? If I had news I wanted to share with you, I would. Did you see the game last night? (that’s my personal favorite)
You could start giving responses that will make people stop asking. You can say, well, not sure we are doing it right do you have any advice on which sexual positions promote conceiving? I am not sure about that sticky stuff on the bed when we are finsished with with our sex. Do you think that anal sex will speed things up by loosing in my pelvic floor area? Do you get my drift on the types of things you can say to shut them up? IMO they are being intrusive and impolite. Family does not come with any right to be included or intrusive. No endless chances clause, no auto forgive clause. I also recommend you google The Lemon Clot Essay, read it and have your SO read it and then make your plans. Now is the time to be making plans for your pregnancy, birth and postpartum experience. The more you know what to expect the better you will be able to deal.
As someone thats been married for 5 years the question never stops coming. People mean well with their intentions but it does add that pressure. Just make a joke and be like we’re trying or having fun or whatever and it kinda will easee people off for a bit. And enjoy your fresh married take your time!
Shut that crap down. Say I’ll let you know when I am and id appreciate you not asking me.
Read Set Boundaries Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab.
Tell them that you don’t plan to get pregnant just yet. Right now, you just want to enjoy married life with your husband. Don’t give any time frames.
When you are ready to try, don’t tell anyone. Wait until you are pregnant and you have done your 3 month scan.
Asking if you’re pregnant after 3 months of marriage is intrusive. Don’t let them put you under that kind of pressure.
sure but got no control over people, i just go with it lol
I got to know a nice little older couple at the medical office where I was working 20 years ago.
Once I got married, I was about 2-3 months into marriage when they came in for an appt. I was talking to them and the wife says, “Is that a little baby bump under there?”
I wore scrubs so not the most form fitting..
I just awkwardly laughed and said, “No, not yet…”
I’d never make comments to any woman about pregnancy. You never know what they’re going through-
Pregnancy loss, multiple miscarriages, difficulties with IVF or simply don’t want to have kids!
1 year in… we are on the anti children train for the time being but the questions keep coming. After a while I think most people grow bored of my dry “no”
What gets people to shut up is when we respond why, you plan to babysit for us?
That is terrible as it’s none of their business and they have no idea what kind of struggles might be going on.
As a couple who struggled to get pregnant the first time and never did the second time even after rounds of IVF, if I had heard that question asked my answer would not have been polite.
OP, either get used to it, find a way to cope with it (e.g. ignore it and change the subject), or address it.
Of course it is intrusive and annoying, but the only way I know to actually make this stop FOR GOOD is to have a conversation with each and every person who does this and tell them that you don’t want to discuss your fertility or situation with them, that you will let people know when the time is right, and to please stop asking because you find it rude and intrusive and that maybe no one ever told them this, but this isn’t an appropriate question. Period.
If you don’t want to do that, and I can understand why you wouldn’t, then your next best bet is to come up with ridiculous answers to the extent that people will stop asking. Never treat it like a real question. Go ahead and come up with a few tailored to the worst offenders. I did this, and it absolutely worked without making it into a big discussion. People don’t like being the butt of these jokes, and most of them will realize they are asking a private question when you turn it on them like this.
Examples:
You know, I’m not pregnant yet, but I was thinking maybe I need a surrogate. We have a turkey baster, are you volunteering?
I’m glad you asked. What positions do you and your husband do when you want to conceive? Can we watch, you know so we can learn from people who have gotten pregnant before? Maybe we are doing something wrong?
We are pregnant with octuplets, I’m going to be the next octo Mom! Can you believe it?
We are thinking maybe we need to do a ritual sacrifice on the next full moon, would you be willing to offer up your dog/cat etc.? (When they say no, say well fine, I thought you wanted a baby, but you aren’t willing to put skin in the game!).
Not yet. I hope I’m not infertile. If I am, can I have some of your eggs? It’s a simple procedure. I’ll make you a thank you card or meal, whatever you like…
I’m not sure why it’s not working, we are using the pull out method, is that what you would recommend? And then ask a lot of detailed follow up questions about their husband and his penis.
Well, not yet. Maybe it’s not working in our bed, can we use yours?
Not yet, but we are trying. A lot. Like multiple times a day, in fact I just had sex 30 minutes ago. What about you? When did you last have sex with your husband? Lets discuss! Then ask for all the details of this encounter.
I keep telling my husband that you can’t get pregnant from blow jobs, but he keeps on insisting this is the best approach. Fingers crossed!
Not yet, but practice makes perfect. What’s your favorite thing to do with your husband, maybe you have some tips? Then ask for ridiculous intimate details like if she came, how long it took, etc.
You get the point!
None of their business. Period. I don’t want kids. And I’ve gotten to the point where I’m gonna start being rude about it. I’ve been married 2 years. I’d doesnt stop.
It’s a rude question. You don’t know what someone is going through. For me , I don’t personally want children. So I always get odd looks or disappointed responses. But what if I couldn’t physically have any & I really wanted to? Like what a fucked up question to ask and it’s so personal
“Nah, are you?” is all I would say.
Just say ‘we don’t want children yet, so we are just doing anal’ with a sweet smile and watch their reaction. They won’t ask again.
I feel you. My wife and i did IVF twice and failed. The hormone injections made her bloated and look almost pregnant. So many coworkers would say “look who is pregnant “ you can only imagine the pain after we miscarried after a brief pregnancy. As a general rule “shut up and don’t ever ask women if she is pregnant unless she is crowning” people overall have no boundaries and will say stupid things. Good luck and I wish years of joy and happiness with your partner.
I think it’s absurd that we’ve supposedly come so far as a society and yet this is still something people haven’t learned better than to do.