Fri. Dec 27th, 2024

BREAKING NEWS:

TERMINALLY ILL EX-BOYFRIEND FEELS CONFLICTED OVER LIFE-EXTENDING TREATMENT OPTIONS

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In a shocking turn of events, a terminally ill ex-boyfriend has been left feeling torn between the desire to extend his life and the guilt of leaving his loved ones behind.

According to sources close to the family, the 32-year-old former partner has been diagnosed with a terminal illness and is currently weighing his options for life-extending treatment. Despite his strong desire to spend more time with his loved ones, he is struggling to come to terms with the emotional toll his treatment may take on those around him.

"I feel like I’m caught between two worlds," the terminally ill ex-boyfriend said in an exclusive interview. "On one hand, I want to fight for as much time as possible with the people I love. On the other hand, I don’t want to burden them with my condition or watch them suffer alongside me."

This heart-wrenching decision comes as the ex-boyfriend’s condition continues to deteriorate, leaving him with only a short time left. The news has sent shockwaves throughout his loved ones, who are trying to come to terms with the reality of the situation.

"I never thought I’d have to make this decision," the ex-boyfriend’s mother said, visibly distraught. "As a mother, it’s my instinct to want to protect and care for my child, but I’m also aware that he needs to make his own choices. It’s a heartbreaking situation, and I just wish I could take his pain away."

As the world watches this tragic story unfold, it serves as a poignant reminder of the complexity of human emotions and the difficult choices we often face in the face of adversity.

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I'll try to keep this brief, but please don't expect miracles from me.

We’ve been divorced since 2022, we have 2 kids aged 7 and 4. Our marriage can best be described as a perfect storm of my complete absence of self-worth and his gambling addiction. Lying, cheating, threats, crime, all the bases of a dysfunctional marriage covered. We live in a close-knit area and he borrowed money from my relatives, friends and acquaintances: he told them the money was for me and he was only being kind enough to ask them since I was too embarrassed to do so. He found a new partner as soon as he moved out and now lives with her. I haven't met her and have no particular desire to; the fact that the kids like her and even say that "she's nicer than dad" is good enough for me.

Coparenting’s been a challenge. There are periods of peace, yet every bout of sudden cooperativeness usually means that there's trouble at home and he wants to get back together with me (mainly because if his partner dumps him, he has nowhere to live).

He recently moved relatively close to us, keeps acquaintances in our hometown and still manages to scam people every now and again (not that easy anymore since everyone knows him by now, but alas). He doesn't pay child support, does odd jobs and blames other people for his situation. It's insanely difficult to ensure that the kids have a healthy-as-possible relationship with a person who essentially enters relationships solely for his personal gain. He uses them to spy on me (asking our son about my love life), to gain likes on social media and to garner sympathy from people who don't know him well. I've often considered breaking off all contact with him but was advised not to by mental health professionals.

I've learnt to live with this, yet there's a veil of shame, embarrassment and hopelessness hanging over me. I've paid off all the debts he’s racked up just so I can hold my head high when I show my face in public. I've lost my ability to love and trust, I’ve no faith in my own judgement. I know that for as long as he lives, my life will be affected by his actions and trying to fight him only depletes me of my energy and will to live. My only goal is to find a balance between living as fulfilling of a life as possible, doing work on myself and maintaining just enough contact with him for the kids to have him present in their life with as little emotional damage as possible.

A few days ago he told me that he’s been diagnosed with a grade 3 sarcoma. My first thought was that this might be just another one of his scams, yet his medical documents seem legit (not only to me but also my friends with medical degrees) and his demeanour certainly shows that he is shocked and scared since his prognosis is quite bleak.

Since I’ve got the news, I’ve been a mess, mainly because I’ve seen the effects the divorce has had on our kids (especially the oldest since the younger one was still an infant when we split) and can only imagine what his death will do to them. But the feeling I’ve been most conflicted about is the relief. I don’t wish harm on him, I’m not glad he’s in pain and I don’t particularly believe in karma, BUT. Am I secretly glad I’ll eventually be able to live in peace and won’t have to constantly fear the next bombshell he drops into our lives? Oh please.

Thoughts like these make me feel like a self-centred monster.  Am I, though? I’d really like your opinion. Thank you.



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One thought on “Terminally ill ex, feeling conflicted”
  1. You are human, and he has put you through a lot. It’s hard not to have human emotions, such as relief, to an end in sight. In no way does that make you a bad person. At the same time you hold pain for your children knowing they will likely lose their father at a young age, and you try to maintain a co-parenting relationship with all of this going on.

    Give yourself some grief to feel what you feel. I suggest counseling too, if you can, to process these conflicting emotions. He was a bag of dicks to you AND your children’s father, whom I assume they love.

    This co-parenting experience is so tough, don’t add anymore stress to yourself by judging how you feel. You are entitled to truly feel whatever comes up. I hope you get support through all of this.

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