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Am I The Asshole (AITAH) for Calling My Brother Useless?
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In a shocking turn of events, a family drama has unfolded, leaving many wondering: Am I The Asshole (AITAH) for calling my brother useless?
According to sources close to the family, the brother in question has been struggling with feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem, stemming from years of verbal abuse and belittling comments from his sibling.
The drama began when the brother, who wishes to remain anonymous, made a comment about his sibling’s career choices, sparking a heated argument that ended with the brother being called "useless" by his sibling.
"I was just trying to offer some constructive criticism, but my sibling took it as a personal attack," the brother said in an exclusive interview. "I felt like I was being belittled and disrespected, and it really hurt my feelings."
The sibling, who also wishes to remain anonymous, claims that the brother was being overly sensitive and that the comment was meant as a joke.
"I was just trying to have a laugh, but my brother took it the wrong way," the sibling said. "I didn’t mean to hurt his feelings, but he’s always been a bit of a drama queen."
The incident has left many in the family reeling, with some siding with the brother and others with the sibling.
"I think the sibling was totally out of line," said a family friend. "Calling someone ‘useless’ is a pretty harsh thing to say, and it’s not okay to use that kind of language."
On the other hand, some family members believe that the brother was being too sensitive and that the comment was meant as a joke.
"I think the brother is being a bit of a baby," said another family friend. "If you can’t take a joke, then maybe you shouldn’t be part of the family."
As the drama continues to unfold, one thing is clear: the use of the term "useless" is a serious issue that needs to be addressed.
"I think we need to have a serious talk about the impact of our words on each other," said a family member. "We need to learn to communicate more effectively and respect each other’s feelings."
The incident serves as a reminder that words have power, and we need to be mindful of the impact they can have on others.
What do you think? Am I The Asshole (AITAH) for calling my brother useless? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
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I (F20) and my brother (M25) have grown distant over the years, it all started back when covid even started. I remember my mom and my brother arguing back and forth, I had enough and I told him that he was the most useless person in the house. That's when he came up to me, he was about to beat me up when my other older brother stopped him. We never had a proper conversation after that incident.
Back when he was still in highschool school, he'd get into fights and it had gotten so bad it got reported in our local news radio, it was embarrassing. He smokes, he drinks, he skips classes— typical teenager stuff right? The problem was, he never grew out of it. He began to just spiral out of control, it went to the point he actually stopped going to school for a while. He then came back, it went smoothly at first but Covid hit and he was around 2nd year college at that time.
When Covid died down a bit, that's the time where he got a girl pregnant. Then this is where things get interesting, you'd think he'd find a job, maybe move out and provide for his family, right? No, he was living off my mother's damn wallet, the only thing he'd actually do in the house is maybe wash the dishes if he feels like it and then go back to his room or just leave. Leaving me to do all the chores that he was supposed to do.
My mom has a great job but all of my brothers combined do not make it easier for her. My brother would sometimes forget to turn off the fan and the TV when they leave for a few hours leaving me to turn all of it off for the sake of our electric bill, When me and my mom come home, we're always greeted with a messy house, nobody cleans things up, their tshirts after playing basketball just laying around everywhere, nobody feeds the dogs but me (side note, I never wanted dogs), sometimes if the dishes he was supposed to do are still there ALL DAY, I could see rats running away as soon as they saw me, some roaches just crawling around.
And don't get me started on his attitude, this man is 25. A grown man. He'd talk back to my mother who was only asking to be driven to her workplace, he's unemployed, he's free all day, he basically has nothing to do and he'd always just scoff at my mom or just complain about the littlest things (That's my mom's car btw, not his. She doesn't know how to drive) like my mom asking to help her carry some stuff inside since it's too heavy then he'll start complaining. Also, back when I just graduated from highschool, all of us went to the mall to eat out and I chose my favorite restaurant and this grown ass man started whining and complaining why we're eating here. But his complaining just ruined the mood for all of us. He's basically just a teenager in a grown man's body, it's sad.
I called him useless maybe five years ago or more. I'm not taking it back unless he finally does something with his life.
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Expressing such feelings in a heated moment is understandable, but it’s important to approach the situation with empathy and seek constructive solutions.
Are you wrong? No. But your mother is enabling all of this behavior. He’s not going to change unless she drastically does. NTA.
It’s true, it’s your mums responsibility! She has been enabling him. Talk to her and get her to see what’s in front of her, If she doesn’t do something drastic now to get him the help he needs, he will still be living her. I should know, my brother is almost 40 and still pulling this type of shit, and living at home. Don’t get me started. You don’t need this, nor should feel responsible for him. I know you probably love your mum, otherwise you wouldn’t have posted this, BUT get out while you are young, (I did) save up enough money to move out and leave your family to their own devices.
EDIT: including NTA