Ghosted because I don’t have a motorcycle

I met my friend Z online two years ago. We became very close very quickly. We didn’t necessarily talk every day, but that was okay because both of us were busy. However, over the last few months he started to take an attitude with me every time we did speak. It made me start wondering why on earth he even bothered to message me in the first place..

He was super excited over the recent purchase of his black Tesla and his beautiful black Kawasaki ninja motorcycle. So much so that he told me he was going to create an Instagram account specifically to show off his motorcycle. I kind of jokingly teased him about ending up like all of the people online who post on accounts for their cats and dogs. He knew that I was joking, but told me that there was a very large fan base for motorcycle content.

Me being the amateur photographer that I am, suggested that maybe we could get together and do some photo shoots so that we both had content to post on our accounts. He snapped at me and told me that he does not need my assistance in that field that he will either do it himself, or find somebody more professional.

I was extremely hurt by this, but I told him that that is fair enough. He refused to share with me the Instagram account, which I thought was really odd, but I respected his decision. I reminded him that he and I had been friends for two years, and I kind of found it really strange that he wanted to keep this a secret from me, and that it was just an Instagram account after all. He responded by saying, “I just don’t want YOU to know about it!!”

My feelings were super hurt, but I decided that if those were his wishes, then they were to be respected. He informed me he had been talking with a girl online that lived in a different country to him. He told me they were in a very serious and intense relationship, and they were now boyfriend and girlfriend, and me being the worrier that I am, expressed concern and wanted him to make sure that all avenues had been covered and that she was who she said she was.

He’s not the kind of person who is honest about who he is online. He always uses a fake name online and never shows his photograph. I asked him if the girl that he was talking to knew his real name, knew what he looked like, if he had been truthful with her at all?? He said that he had not told her his real name and had never shown her his photograph, so she didn’t even know what he looked like.

I told him that they should probably start off on the right foot by at least giving a first name and sharing a photo of what they look like. He told me to mind my business and stay out of his affairs and I told him that that’s fine, but I was just concerned because I’d been through something like that before. I told him that I just had a lot of care for him and was concerned about his well-being, should she not turn out to be genuine.

I tried to keep the conversation away from his romantic interests. He really only wanted to talk about was his motorbike. Every time the talk turned to his motorbike, he was very sarcastic in the way he spoke to me and would remind me that I’ve got no business talking about motorbikes because I don’t have a motorbike.

He told me that he was part of a motorcycle crew that rode around all day, filming content for their Instagram and TikTok accounts. I told him that that was great news, and he seem to be doing very well, and he told me that he now has total happiness in his life, and he was going to start cutting out everybody because they no longer meant anything to him.

My heart sank into the pit of my stomach when he told me this, because I feared that my two year friendship with him was going to be over with, and I constantly checked my Snapchat account to see if I was still a part of his life. I had been friends with him when he was considered a loser by everybody else that had ever met him. He used to come to me when he had a bad day at work and felt like he was hopeless because he couldn’t find a woman to be in love with him.

I don’t know exactly when he removed me from his life. I just know that I went to search for him online one day and he was gone. He‘s been gone for, I’m guessing 6 weeks now, could be a little longer, and I feel like I’ve lost one of my best friends. I watch his content on instagram, and it’s like I no longer exist to him anymore. It’s heartbreaking, but I know I can’t reach out to him because he’s stubborn and won’t care.