BREAKING NEWS
ENGAGEMENT RING CONFESSIONAL: HEARTBREAK AND HEALING AFTER A PROPOSED REJECTION
A dramatic turn of events unfolded as a 29-year-old man’s proposal was met with a resounding "no" from his 27-year-old financee. The couple had been together for several years, and the man thought he had found the perfect symbol of their love and commitment in the engagement ring. However, his partner had other ideas.
Sources close to the couple confirm that the proposal was planned down to the last detail, with the man having carefully selected a stunning ring that he believed would represent their love story. The financee, however, had a different vision for their future together.
"This ring just isn’t me," the financee confided in a trusted friend. "I know [his name] put so much thought into it, but it’s just not something I would wear or cherish."
As the dust settles on this unexpected rejection, the question on everyone’s mind is: how does the man move forward? Should he try to redesign the ring to suit her tastes or start the search for a new sparkler?
EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW
We had the opportunity to speak with the man, who has agreed to share his story with us. "I was devastated when she rejected the ring," he said, his voice still heavy with emotion. "I had put my heart and soul into choosing the perfect ring, and to see it rejected was like a punch to the gut. But as I’ve processed this, I’ve realized that it’s not just about the ring – it’s about understanding what matters most to my partner and building a stronger connection between us."
SEO TAGS
- Engagement Ring Rejection
- Propose Rejection
- Engagement Ring Woes
- Relationship Crisis
- Communication in Relationships
- Marriage Proposal
- Personal Growth
- Relationship Lessons
- Love and Marriage
- Engagement Ring Selection
- Partner Preferences
ADVICE FROM RELATIONSHIP EXPERTS
We reached out to a panel of relationship experts to share their insights on what the man should do next. Here are their words of wisdom:
- "When faced with rejection, it’s essential to practice empathy and understanding. Rather than getting defensive or emotional, take a step back and try to see things from your partner’s perspective." – Dr. Maria Sanchez, Relationship Therapist
- "Communication is key in any relationship, especially during times of uncertainty. Have an open and honest conversation with your partner about what matters most to them, and be willing to listen and adapt." – Rachel Rodriguez, Relationship Coach
- "This experience can be a wake-up call for both parties to re-evaluate what they want from their relationship and what they’re willing to work towards. By embracing this opportunity for growth, you can emerge stronger and more resilient on the other side." – Chris Evans, Relationship Counselor
FOLLOW US FOR MORE RELATIONSHIP STORIES AND ADVICE
Stay tuned for more exclusive content on love, relationships, and personal growth. Follow us on social media for the latest updates and expert advice on building strong, healthy relationships.
SHARE YOUR STORY WITH US
Have you faced a similar situation in your relationship? Share your experiences and advice with us in the comments below. Together, we can build a community that supports and encourages one another on the journey of love and relationships.
This breaking news story is brought to you by our team of dedicated journalists, working tirelessly to bring you the latest updates and expert insights on the world of love and relationships. Stay informed, stay inspired, and stay tuned for more exciting content!
Hi all, title of the post pretty much says it all, but for the sake of added clarity here are some additional details:
My now fiancé and I have been together for about 6 years, but have only been living together for a little over a year. Several months ago, after having spent enough time living together, I officially made the decision to propose. I had wanted to earlier in our relationship, but for most of our early relationship, I was stuck living in a shared house I purchased with very close friends, and had not had to opportunity to actually live with her.
After I made the decision to propose, I began working with a local jewler to design a ring that I thought would be perfect. My fiancé doesn't typically wear a lot of jewelry, and what she does wear is often small, but pretty unique pieces. As such, when it came to the ring, I wanted to create a piece that she would be proud to wear, wouldn't be "traditional", and would still fit her style. I landed on using an Opal as the main gem (her birth month stone, and a stone that she has called her favorite on multiple occasions) surrounded by two smaller jade pieces (a prominent stone used in her more commonly worn jewelry). Although the ring is definitely bigger than the other jewelry she wears, I was very happy with how it turned out, I was very excited to propose with it.
Last month, while on a trip to her home state of Alaska, I popped the question. We were both very emotional, she was ecstatic, and of course said yes. We then spent the day calling our family and friends to spread the news, and she spent basically the entire time with her eyes fixated on the ring. I figured all was well, she was happy, and we would start planning our elopement. The next day she decided not to wear the ring (it was in fact the wrong size, and only fit on her pinky finger), I figured no big deal, I would take the ring to get it resized when we got home. However, the following day she admitted that the real reason she wasn't wearing the ring was because it wasn't "her style", and she expected something "much different from an engagement ring."
This felt like an absolute punch to the stomach. I spent countless weeks back and forth with the jewler to find the right stones, the right design, and spent close to 6k on it, all in. I was genuinely heartbroken, and didn't know what to say, so I just closed up. The remainder of our trip was pretty awkward. She spent a lot of time crying, trying to apologize, or justify her position. I admittedly, wasn't ready to hear any of it. When she showed me designs of what she was expecting (she had a whole Pinterest folder filled with pictures) it was pretty much the complete opposite of what I gave her. Very traditional engagement rings, with diamonds, and nothing like any piece I have ever gotten her, or anything she would typically wear.
We have been home now for about two weeks, and just recently gotten the ring resized to fit her. She has worn it on a handful of occasions, mostly just around the house. She has begun talking about wanting a different engagement ring, but I have told her that I spent a lot of money on the one I proposed with, and don't have the funds to purchase something else which is the truth, but only part of it.
The fact is I am deeply hurt that she does not like what I proposed with, and I am not entirely sure how to move forward. I know that if I had explicitly asked her what she wanted, all of this could have been avoided, but I was genuinely trying to make her something special without giving away the surprise of the proposal. I have become completely uninterested in any talk of a wedding, or elopement, which she has definitely picked up on. Overall, I'm just not entirely sure how to move forward from here. On one hand, I 100% understand her position. I don't want her to feel forced to wear something she doesn't like, and I do realize now I should have been more inquisitive with what she wanted for an engagement ring, especially since it was such a large purchase. On the other hand, this was something that I spent a great deal of time and money fussing over specifically for her, and the disregard she is has shown over it is genuinely painful.
I don't have any intention of leaving her over this, after all it's just a shiny rock, but I can't stop feeling genuinely worthless about it. But, is this truly my fault? Is it something I just need to get accept, and get over? Or, are my feelings valid and further conversations with her are needed? Open to any and all feedback, thanks Reddit.
View info-news.info by bus-stop_bandit
Buy her the ring she wants and try to return the other one.
I am not usually Team Ring, but I think you made a pretty big blunder in not sharing the ring decision with her. I get that you were excited to design it, but an engagement ring is something she’ll be expected to wear daily, show to her family and friends, and so if it’s not really her style and not something she likes, that’s a bit difficult for her.
As for how to move forward, I would suggest trying to return this– it may not be possible because it was custom made. And then choosing a ring together.
Ugh this is rough. My fiancée proposed to me and I proudly wear the ring he got for me. I don’t mind how it looks, and I think of him every time I look at it.
One suggestion is that when the time comes, y’all could go and get the wedding rings together or send each other pictures of the style y’all like. Best of luck!
[deleted]
I hate to say it, but I think you’re both right in your own ways.
You spent a lot of time and effort designing the ring. However, it doesn’t sound like you two actually discussed styles together.
Its a brutal situation that pops up on here a decent amount. A ring purchased without discussion, and the style doesn’t land.
What would you rather have her do?
Accept a ring that she doesn’t like. Never telling you about it. Wears it but not in love with it.
Or be brutally honest with you and hit you with the hard truth. That way you two can get her a ring that she is in love with.
Hopefully its not too late to return. But I would personally swallow my pride, go engagement ring shopping together. Get her something that she loves to wear for the rest of her life.
I am not dismissing you here because it definitely is a punch to the gut. It hurts to hear your partner express how they’re not in love with something that you thought would have been a homerun.
For the greater long term good, I think its best to swallow the pride and pivot. She feels guilty about it, but getting the truth out there is only going to make your relationship stronger as a result. Its better that she did the hard thing and communicated instead of pretending behind your back.
If you can’t return the ring. Sucks. But maybe get something inexpensive as a replacement and focus on designing a wedding ring together.
To me, its too much of a high risk to be picking out rings without the others input. We must have gone to 10 different shops together when we picked out ours.
This is a tough one. I’m interested to know, did you two ever discuss marriage before you “made the decision” to propose?
I get that your heart was in the right place and you put a lot of work into the design of the ring but I think if you’re going to design a very unique ring for engagement then you have to know that you’re taking a risk of her not liking it.
Also, I’m side eyeing the jeweler you were working with. Did they not mention the fact that both opals and jade are not particularly strong stones and not ideal for something that will be worn everyday like an engagement ring? Opals crack if you LOOK at them wrong.
It’s always mistake to try to surprise someone with an item you expect them to wear every day. An engagement ring is a decision a couple needs to make together. But the jeweler should have explained to you how dangerously fragile opals are. They’re just not durable enough for all the time wear (and will literally melt if exposed to water regularly). So maybe work together to design something you’ll both like and see how much of this ring can be repurposed into a new one. The good news is that jade is around a 7 on the Mohs hardness scale, so far more suitable for an engagement ring than opals (which are only around 5.5).
Your feelings are so very very very valid.
Sounds like if y’all are gonna work out, you two have a bunch of new information about each other and yourselves and communication to unpack.
If someone spent that much time and thought on me and the reason it wasn’t what I wanted is because I never told them what I wanted, I would never open my mouth and admit it. I would wear the ring with pride in my man and a humble reminder that I owe him my best.
Engagement rings are easily messy. This is recoverable I think, but your feelings absolutely belong at the table as much as hers. Just don’t treat it like someone is right and someone is wrong and grow as a couple. Just…if she doesn’t think your feelings matter on the subject, be careful.
This sucks, obviously. I get why you feel bummed that she doesn’t like the ring you thoughtfully designed for her. And – it wasn’t what she wanted and you should have asked her what she wanted. Jewelry is extremely personal and engagement rings are especially so. As much of a bummer as this is, it IS on you, unfortunately.
Yeah, this is why you talk to your partner about the thing you expect her to wear for the rest of her life before you spend that much money on it. I’m also a bit confused as to how you think you spent all this time designing the perfect ring for her when you didn’t even know her ring size? I’m just wondering if you really know her taste as much as you thought you did, especially considering she has an entire Pinterest board. That’s just speculation on my part, though. It’s just… If you couldn’t get something as simple as the size right, it makes me wonder about the rest of it.
You spent a ton of time, effort, and money, and a part of it flopped. She was really excited to marry you! An engagement ring is a statement piece, and most women want it to say “I’m engaged!” loud and clear.
Your feelings are valid, but you also need to realize that your need for a complete surprise came with large risks. You invested a lot and you won the biggest prize — she said yes. The minor prize, the love of the ring, didn’t pan out.
She didn’t disregard your feelings. She was genuinely upset that your feelings were hurt and that her not loving the ring is painful to you. In spite of her own disappointment, she is trying to like the ring and wear it sometimes. The question is are you disregarding hers? Because you seem to think your disappointment should outweigh hers. That’s worth exploring on your own.
I think there’s several other questions to ask yourself:
How do you handle disappointment?
What do you need acknowledged to move forward?
What does she need acknowledged to move forward?
What compromise feels acceptable to you both?