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AITAH (Am I The Asshole?) For Wanting Commitment From My BF (25M) Now That I’m Pregnant?
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In a shocking turn of events, a 26-year-old woman, who wishes to remain anonymous, has sparked a heated debate on social media by asking if she’s being unreasonable for expecting commitment from her 25-year-old boyfriend after discovering she’s pregnant.
THE STORY
According to sources close to the couple, the woman, who we’ll refer to as "Sarah," has been in a relationship with her boyfriend, "John," for over two years. While things have been going smoothly, Sarah has always felt like John was hesitant to take their relationship to the next level. She’s been patient, thinking that he would eventually come around, but as the months went by, she started to feel like she was stuck in limbo.
THE TWIST
Recently, Sarah discovered she was pregnant, and her world was turned upside down. She immediately confided in John, expecting him to be overjoyed and eager to start a family together. However, John’s reaction was lukewarm at best, leaving Sarah feeling frustrated and unsure about their future together.
THE QUESTION
Sarah took to social media to ask her followers if she’s being unreasonable for expecting commitment from John now that she’s pregnant. She wrote, "I know I’m not asking for much, but I feel like I deserve to know where we stand as a couple. Am I being too much to ask for a little commitment and stability after bringing a new life into this world?"
THE DEBATE
The post quickly went viral, with many people weighing in on the situation. Some argued that Sarah is being unfair, pointing out that John didn’t sign up for fatherhood and that she should be grateful he’s willing to be involved at all. Others sided with Sarah, saying that she has every right to expect commitment from her partner, especially now that they’re having a child together.
THE VERDICT
So, is Sarah being unreasonable for wanting commitment from John now that she’s pregnant? Weigh in with your thoughts in the comments below!
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My boyfriend (25M) and I (26F) have been dating for 2.5 years. We have been living together for 2 years. I’ve been ready to be engaged to him for over a year now and he says marriage is still 2-3 years out for him.
I found out a few weeks ago that I’m pregnant and I’m now 10 weeks along. The pregnancy was unplanned and he took the news really poorly. Completely isolated himself from me emotionally and I thought we might break up. He’s acting like his old self now and has been very affectionate towards me, but there was a solid 2-3 weeks where I was absolutely terrified that I would be going through pregnancy and parenting a newborn alone.
I’ve been having a hard time putting that fear aside, especially because marriage is off the table for him right now. He thinks I’m TAH because I’ve been pressuring him to talk about marriage with me and want more commitment. He thinks it’s too soon to commit because we had a break in our relationship 1.5 years ago for a few days and I slept with someone else. He’s said any “reasonable” person would need more time to commit after that. However, he also insists that he trusts me and sees a future with me.
I’m feeling really frustrated with him because he seems unable to empathize with how scary it is to be pregnant and unsure if your partner will be there to support you or not. And I’m also frustrated that he brings up what happened on our break in nearly every argument. AITAH for wanting reassurance/commitment?
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> we had a break in our relationship 1.5 years ago for a few days and I slept with someone else
I mean, this would absolutely give me pause too and I would not want to rush into marriage with this knowledge.
Yta, he obviously is holding on to what you did, it is fair he would be hesitant to get legally bound to someone who betrayed his trust. Honestly couples therapy is a good idea, he is clearly not over what you did, if it is not discussed and resolved the relationship is doomed to fail.
Bringing a child into a relationship does not fix anything or resolve any issues, Infact the baby will 100% bring any issues to the forefront of your relationship.
Trying to force marriage just because you are pregnant is stupid, there are clear issues that need to be sorted, you trying to shove it down his throat is immature, again, just because you are pregnant does not mean anything in terms of fixing his issues with you, what you did, and his faith/trust (or lack thereof) in you.
I would suggest immediately getting into couples therapy to try and sort out his emotions and feelings towards you before this kid comes out, stop trying to get him to get legally bound to you, unfortunately you fked up and it’s unfair to expect him to just move on and pretend everything is okay.
He hasn’t proposed before the child and now you want commitment.. girl bye
You set yourself up for failure by having children before marriage …
So you guys broke up after 1.5 years and within those few days you slept with someone else. And then again he continued pursuing this relationship. And now you’re pregnant.
2 things-
– is he dumbfuck?
– what says this is his child you’re carrying?
Sounds like you already got a commitment. Should have kept your legs closed if you wanted a ring
As a woman who is currently trying for a baby herself, I’m smelling a baby trap situation.
You are responsible for having a conversation with your partner about children. You are both responsible for using contraceptives if you aren’t ready or don’t want them. You knew he didn’t want to get married for another 2-3 years (he was honest) and now oopsies! I’m pregnant and want to get married.
I could see why he wouldn’t be happy about the baby and why he would want another 3 years to get married.
News flash, after the baby it isn’t all sunshine and daisies.